Monday, December 10, 2012

On Parenting

Ok, mini-rant time:

There seems to be this slew of young women who write parenting advice books/blogs when their own children are still under the age of ten. And I don't understand it.


How do you know what makes a good parent? You have no idea how your kids are going to turn out. You're not even halfway there. What gives you the authority to say certain diets or teaching methods or styles of discipline are right or wrong?

I mean,

What about our mothers and grandmothers?
They have the weight of experience on their side, I'd rather hear what they have to say.

It may seem strange that I'm voicing my opinion on something that has no bearing on my personal life, but for some reason, it really sticks in my craw.

That is such a weird expression. I always picture myself with lobster claws for hands and they're full of peanut butter.

Listen, just because you dress your small ones in organic free range cotton or whatever, you've gotten them to eat eggplant surprise without complaining, and they're taking some sort of Underwater Basket Weaving Class for Baby Geniuses doesn't mean they're going to turn into Perfect and Successful Upstanding Citizens.

Obviously they're less likely to be an ax murderer if they learn to express themselves with arts and crafts at an early age.  But there's no guarantee that they won't make terrible choices when they grow up and are out on their own.

What kids really need to learn is about Love
And Faith in a power much stronger than themselves.

Also, a healthy understanding of personal finance. So helpful.

The kid who has those things under his or belt is the one with a fighting chance in this great and terrible world. 

And THAT is my educated and completely relevant opinion on parenting.

/end rant

I suppose I should clarify that I don't personally know any of these high maintenance mommies who irritate me so; I don't want you to think I'm passive-aggressively pointing fingers. All the young mothers I know are doing a fine job of raising their youngins right. 
Again, not that my opinion has any bearing on the matter...


  1. Thank you, my dear, for your vote of confidence! Your mother and I and our mothers and grandmothers had moments (me many of them) when we felt like we had no idea what we were doing. But ta dah! We managed to produce some pretty darn good kids in spite of it all and didn't choke, poison, scar or kill any of you, us or them in the process. Amazing considering we didn't have all those books to guide us. Well, except for Doctor Spock of course, which I never did read. Maybe I should have?

  2. ps: I love the photo! Classic

  3. Long time reader, first time commenter! What I learn more of everyday since having my children (ages7 and 4) is how little I know about much of anything. They have a way of convincing you that you have little idea how to take care of what is really important in them! It brings about a lot of desperation, and I have not much faith in parenting books. It does cause a person to seek God! Good mini rant. Thanks for sharing.
    Alyssa Rundle

  4. The subject of endless. There's another whole approach here. Not all that special, really...yet, in the end, I'm not sure the adult versions turn out much worse (or better) than 'back home'. But there are some pretty destructive things parents do... Thankfully, kids are people, too, who can turn out in spite of many things!


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